Marriage Counseling
Lady Fisher, wife of the Archbishop of Canterbury, when asked if she ever thought of divorce, replied, "Of divorce, never; of murder frequently." ~ The Times October 1986
"The state of marriage is one that requires more virtue and constancy than any other. It is a perpetual exercise of mortification... From this thyme plant, in spite of the bitter nature of its juice, you may be able to draw and make the honey of a holy life" ~ Francis de Sales, Thy Will Be Done.
Perhaps you have experienced this. The same qualities that initially attracted you to your spouse have become the very characteristics that most annoy you. Not only that, but relatively insignificant situations often escalate to major arguments with attacks, raised voices, and withdrawing into stony silence.
The average couple waits until they have been in significant relationship trouble for six years before they make an appointment with a marriage counselor. After six years the negative habits and attitudes have become ingrained and hopelessness has begun to settle in. The person who was your dearest love, your best friend, the one to whom you entrusted your heart, is acting like someone you do not know, an enemy seemingly set on destroying you and your happiness. It is terrifying to think of losing your relationship but it may be equally terrifying to remain much longer in the status quo.
Using techniques drawn from empirically validated Emotion Focused Therapy filtered through Biblical truth I will endeavor to help you reconnect with your spouse to recover your early love and tap into what originally made your love so exciting and satisfying. Walking through forgiveness, learning to turn toward each other, listening to each other's hearts, breaking bad habits of self-protectiveness and criticism, together we will seek to recover the joy of a secure attachment to your spouse. You can build a marriage that is an emotional and spiritual "safe haven."
"The state of marriage is one that requires more virtue and constancy than any other. It is a perpetual exercise of mortification... From this thyme plant, in spite of the bitter nature of its juice, you may be able to draw and make the honey of a holy life" ~ Francis de Sales, Thy Will Be Done.
Perhaps you have experienced this. The same qualities that initially attracted you to your spouse have become the very characteristics that most annoy you. Not only that, but relatively insignificant situations often escalate to major arguments with attacks, raised voices, and withdrawing into stony silence.
The average couple waits until they have been in significant relationship trouble for six years before they make an appointment with a marriage counselor. After six years the negative habits and attitudes have become ingrained and hopelessness has begun to settle in. The person who was your dearest love, your best friend, the one to whom you entrusted your heart, is acting like someone you do not know, an enemy seemingly set on destroying you and your happiness. It is terrifying to think of losing your relationship but it may be equally terrifying to remain much longer in the status quo.
Using techniques drawn from empirically validated Emotion Focused Therapy filtered through Biblical truth I will endeavor to help you reconnect with your spouse to recover your early love and tap into what originally made your love so exciting and satisfying. Walking through forgiveness, learning to turn toward each other, listening to each other's hearts, breaking bad habits of self-protectiveness and criticism, together we will seek to recover the joy of a secure attachment to your spouse. You can build a marriage that is an emotional and spiritual "safe haven."
